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Love & relationships

Attachment Style Test

Find out how you bond, why the same fights keep coming back, and what you actually need from a partner. Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful.

6 minutes 24 questions Based on the two-dimension model used in attachment research (anxiety and avoidance)
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The push-pull loop

One reaches for closeness, the other steps back, and each move makes the other's stronger.

Four ways to love.

Your style comes from two scores: how much you worry about being left, and how much you pull away from closeness.

Swipe to see all four styles.

Your style, meet theirs.

Most relationship patterns come from two styles meeting. Pick yours and your partner's to see how the pair tends to play out.

You are
Your partner is

Not sure? That's what the test is for. Your report includes this pairing for every style.

Anxious with avoidant

The push-pull loop

What your report shows.

Two scores, one style, and six chapters written for your exact result.

Sample report

Your style: Anxious

Attachment anxiety78th percentile
Rarely worryOften worry
Attachment avoidance24th percentile
Seek closenessKeep distance

Dashed lines mark the middle half of everyone who took the test.

  1. Your style and both scores

    Where you sit on the map, and how far from secure

  2. Where it comes from

    The early patterns that usually shape your style

  3. In the first months of dating

    What you notice, what you miss, who you fall for

  4. In conflict

    What you do when it gets tense, and what works better

  5. You with every other style

    The four pairings, and what each one needs

  6. Moving toward secure

    Small, specific habits that shift your scores over time

From the chapter "In conflict", written for the anxious style
When a message goes unanswered, your mind writes the worst version of the story within minutes.

Your report shows how to catch that moment, and the one sentence that gets you reassurance without starting a fight.

Get my report

Six minutes, start to finish.

  1. 1

    Answer 24 statements

    About how you feel in close relationships, past or present.

  2. 2

    Get your two scores

    Anxiety and avoidance, each compared with everyone who took the test.

  3. 3

    Read your report

    Your style, your pairings and how to move toward secure.

Built on the model researchers use.

Adult attachment is measured on two dimensions, anxiety and avoidance. Where you fall on both gives your style.

This test is for self-understanding. It does not diagnose anything and is not a substitute for therapy.

Original itemsBased on the two-dimension model used in attachment research (anxiety and avoidance).
Four-style modelBartholomew and Horowitz's map of secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful styles.
Real comparisonsYour scores are percentiles against everyone who took the test.

Learn more.

Attachment Theory: How Your Attachment Style Forms GuideThe 4 Attachment Styles OverviewSecure Attachment Style ProfileAnxious (Preoccupied) Attachment Style ProfileDismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style ProfileFearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style ProfileThe Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Profile

Questions people ask.

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How do you love?

Twenty-four statements, six minutes. Your report is ready the moment you finish.

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