Dating Patterns Test
Discover the type you keep choosing — and the old need that keeps choosing them for you.
This free dating patterns test measures the type you keep choosing, and why. Your answers become a 0–100 score and a personal reading — a clear first step to understanding your relationships, not a clinical diagnosis.
Take the free Dating Patterns test →What the Dating Patterns test measures
- Chasing distance
- Rescuing potential
- Dissolving the self
- Retreating from depth
- Choice awareness
The science behind it
Grounded in Attachment & imago research (1980s). How early bonds shape partner choice — a core question of relationship science The Dating Patterns test uses original items and measures patterns, never disorders.
Your possible results
The Dating Patterns test sorts your pattern into one of five result types. Read what each one means:
Dating Patterns test — questions
Is the Dating Patterns test free?
Yes. The Dating Patterns test is completely free to take, and you get your result and a personal reading at the end — no payment required to see where you land.
How long does the Dating Patterns test take?
About 8 minutes. It has 32 questions, and there are no right or wrong answers — you just respond honestly to how each statement fits you.
Is the Dating Patterns test scientifically grounded?
It draws on Attachment & imago research (1980s). How early bonds shape partner choice — a core question of relationship science Our items are original; we measure patterns, not disorders.
How accurate are the results?
Your Dating Patterns result is computed only from your own answers on a 0–100 scale — no comparison to strangers, nothing invented. It reflects the patterns you reported, and it is a starting point for self-understanding, not a clinical diagnosis.
Do I need an account to take the Dating Patterns test?
No. You can take the Dating Patterns test right away. Saving your full portrait across assessments is optional and happens after you finish.
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