The Merger
The Merger is one of the result types you can get on the Dating Patterns test — a free assessment of your relationships.
The Dating Patterns test looks at how you show up across Chasing distance, Rescuing potential, Dissolving the self, Retreating from depth and Choice awareness. You're matched to The Merger based on how your own answers score across those dimensions on a 0–100 scale — nothing is compared to strangers, and nothing is invented. It reflects a pattern you can work with, not a fixed label or a clinical diagnosis.
The most useful way to understand The Merger is to see it next to your actual scores. Take the test and you'll get your result plus a personal reading composed from your answers — what's true about you, where the pattern costs you, and concrete steps to work with it.
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